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A fancy looking book, with the best cover illustrations and models, doesnât always have the best story written inside them, as an avid reader I can tell that this saying is definitely true.
In other words, we tend to judge people by the first impressions we have of them and this is more often than not wrong because that one instance doesnât always define a person. Giving second chances would most likely show you another side of a personâs character, good or bad you didnât see the first time.
Without much ado, I listed out some examples, please feel free to add any you think I have missed out in the comment section, corrections are also allowed, after-all it’s an opinion poll!
This is basically almost a taboo in this country alongside some parts of the world, you see a person with a tattoo and suddenly you think he/she is either a prostitute or an armed robber, you havenât even spoken to the person, but you already have that impression. Few years back a friend of mine who has a tattoo said to me that her boyfriend, would always use it against her whenever they had a fight. He made her feel like he was probably the only âgoodâ man who would date her in the country and his favourite words were, âsee how you scattered your body with tattoos!â
I was truly shocked and amazed at how vile someone can be, what makes you the better person with such an attitude?!
                                      Simply put, pregnancy before marriage. The motherâs are generally known as baby mamas and oh! The stigma attached to it! The way society looks at you, you automatically become a 3rd class citizen and even your family prays that you are married off as at least a second wife. People think, she is irresponsible, the bad egg, the only girl who has had sex before, every other one is a virgin! I am not trying to defend anyone, or say premarital sex is good, nah! I am saying, WHY JUDGE? Here is a thought…why not commend her for keeping that baby?                           Â
A lot of girls engage in abortions everyday but this one, the baby mama? She kept her child. She chose to stick it out, she made the sacrifice and I respect that, so should everyone else. I see girls who have aborted at least 5 times in their life judge the one who has a child, how is that fair? Just like having a tattoo, someone once said to me, society judges by what they see, they see the tattoos, they see the pregnancy….does it mean that you are perfect so far as you donât get caught doing what is wrong?
Casting stones and causing ladies to not just murder innocent children but put their lives at stake, is that what is best? In my opinion, get this straight, if you are no virgin (before marriage that is) you have no right to even look at a baby mama funny, whether she is Wizkidâs baby mama or not, because you are just lucky!
The popular saying goes thus âdress the way you want to be addressedâ I am all for that, especially when it has to do with what you are required to wear where you work but again, in my opinion a well mannered person does not look down on someone or rebuke them based on their dressing. What you wear does not tell people who you are or what lies beneath your heart. People who judge that way end up misleading themselves. If you tell a girl to put more clothes on so as not to tempt men, tell men to control themselves! Before civilization, Africans basically moved around naked…and so did the better part of humanity. As I would say, it doesnât make âindecentâ dressing right, but it is not a one sided issue either. Let me tell you, a lot of these so called bad girls out there, they know what society wants and so when they are ready to settle down, they dish it all out, they become very âinnocentâ and you would barely see any skin. Because you judge by what you see you go for the good girl, do you think you won, does that make you smart? In the bible GOD told a prophet to marry a prostitute, did that make him less of a man or the woman less of a woman? God is not stupid, that part of the bible is there so that we can learn from the story, not choose the part of the scripture we want and forget the rest.
These are just a few examples I can think of, (you can comment yours).
Our society is too judgmental and Jesus says, if you have no sin, cast the first stone! The angels you think you see are in most cases showing you what you want to see! Character is key.
There is an armed robbery and you grab the first guy you see with a piercing, the actual culprit is watching and laughing. These are reasons why innocent, good people are blacklisted and the crooks roam free. In a civilized society you donât shame a rape victim, you arrest the offender that. We are not perfect, we are flawed and we all have skeletons in our cupboards. Donât be in a haste to point fingers and donât judge the way you would not want to be judged. Accept people, flaws and all. One must not conform to your sense of style or morality before you like them, in fact so far as they are hurting no one, you donât have to like them, itâs that simple, it is a free world and if you decide I am not good enough…it is your problem and not mine.
Baby girl I totally agree, So much shallowness in the world especially in nigeria. I have been looked strangely at by some people especially by church members or just fellow women just cuz I wear trousers or makeup or prefer coloured weaves to black weaves or cuz I wear earrings. I learned that truly sometimes the cover of a book hides the mess on the inside as I have met a lot of those churchy women who are something else..I say judge people by who they are rather than what they look like.
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Preach sister!đđ˝
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This one is deep!!! I love this
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Just be yourself without minding wat ppl will say or do. No pretense. Lol.
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I agreed with jossy, just be yourself and don’t mind what people will say, bacause definitely people will talk…..
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#StayWoke
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